I’ve Been Reading a Lot Lately.

I’ve been reading quite a lot lately. I’ve also done a LOT of re-reading for various reasons. It was only when I put all the books I’ve read in the past two and a half months together in a photograph that I realized that I’ve been reading at a pace which is unprecedented in my life. Of course, I’m going …

The Male “HAPPINESS” Dilemma

I work with guys who struggle with happiness. They aren’t fundamentally “happy”. For them a good day is when nothing bad happens. They deal with anxiety, and feel ashamed that it can be so debilitating. Some days it literally saps their physical strength. I’m talking about strong, able-bodied guys who just want to stay in bed or lie on the …

The Body Is the Mind

I remember being in Wushu (or Kungfu) class quite a few years ago learning some of the basic stances.  “Extend your arms all the way out” said the teacher.  “But..I am” I thought to myself.  A quick look into the mirror across the hall told me otherwise. There was still a little more straightening of the elbows that could happen, …

Stubborn as a G.O.A.T.

As a guy, you’ve probably been told more than once in your life that you’re stubborn. What does that mean, exactly? Often it means that someone is trying to communicate something to you, but you aren’t listening in a way that convinces them that you’re actually getting it. This happened to me today in my Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ) class. I’m …

Accountability & Motivation (for MEN)

There are many reasons a guy will reach out to a Life Coach for Men, but the top two reasons in my experience are accountability and motivation. Let’s look first at accountability. We’ll start by assuming that there’s something you want, some goal you’d like to achieve. A common goal is to get into better physical shape. Other common goals are: get a new …

Breaking the “Bad-Dad” Cycle

A lot of guys come to Life Coaching for Men with father stories. In some cases the dad wasn’t around, either because he died or he skipped out on mom. In other cases the dad was critical, negative, and emotionally or physically abusive. Sometimes dad was freaking awesome in literally every way possible, and set the bar so high that …

When Men Reach Out For Help

“I have to admit, I just can’t get anything right. I can’t make a single good decision. I don’t trust my own judgement at all anymore. Just tell me what to do and I’ll do it”. As a life coach for men, I feel a little conflicted when I hear guys say something like that. And we hear this VERY …

Coaching Versus Therapy

It’s quite often the case that a guy looks for a Life Coach for Men as an alternative to a therapist. Even in the past week I’ve had several Client Applications where the field designated “Tell Me Something About Yourself” became a rant about how the guy had tried therapy and hated it. I’ve spent nearly a decade coaching men …